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How To Keep Your "Cool" When You're About To Explode
b
y Geoffrey Farnsworth

 

Exasperation can be the impetus for mean-spirited, disrespectful communication. After what we experience as a prolonged period of patience, we can sometimes reach that breaking point when the dam bursts and we say something that’s hurtful and belittling. That’s the point when we overstep our boundaries as we interact with another.

Sometimes it happens when we’re in a situation that we can’t walk away from. When we’ve had our fill of someone’s complaints, disagreements or agitation at home, we can explain that we’re going out for a walk or need to answer some emails or complete some task. But when we’re a captive audience on a car trip, for example, we have to be even more conscious of our boundaries and avoid the insulting remarks that spring to mind.

We can make it known that we can’t take more of this conversation right now. A clumsy moment can’t be reclaimed, even though we may try to make it up with an apology or by trying to be especially kind.

Here are some things to keep in mind when you find yourself in that state of exasperation.

  • You are not required to have unlimited patience. If you’re tired, hungry, in pain or angry, you can make that known by saying, “I don’t feel like I can have this conversation without getting annoyed and defensive. I’d like to put a bookmark in this and come back to it when I’m feeling less irritated.”

  • No matter how ridiculous, inane, or inaccurate you may find another’s remarks, they’re probably speaking from their truth—a viewpoint that you might be incapable of sharing, but which you can admit as a possibility. “That’s not the way I remember it, but I’m sure you see it from a different perspective.” Remember, to them, your remarks may be equally ridiculous, inane or inaccurate.

  • Look for something that you can validate in the other person’s remarks. “I can understand why you’d like to stop for dinner, especially when we’re going to hit rush hour traffic and may not eat for a while, but I’ve had fish in the refrigerator for two days and I’d like to use it before it goes bad.”

  • Being right isn’t all that important. When someone insists that they didn’t say something when you’re sure they did, allow some leeway for a looser interpretation. People often say things that they didn’t mean or change their minds immediately after saying it. How crucial is it to determine who said what?

  • When you find yourself contracting in response to someone’s remarks, breathe deeply and allow your heart to expand. This doesn’t mean letting others walk all over you; it’s a way to avoid manipulation and to remain conscious rather than reactive.

  • Sincere apologies when you’ve gone over the line are always worthwhile. Being human means that you mess up at times. Regrets for a mean remark shouldn’t be accompanied by a defense for your hurtful words.

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