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How to Forgive Your Enemies

by Christina Sponias

Of course it's very hard to forgive others when we are hurt; however, we must understand that we inherently possess a wild and evil conscience that causes craziness. Therefore, we must forgive everyone since those who attack us are being dominated by their wild conscience. They are not being human because their conscience is dysfunctional.

With this basic truth in mind, you can follow these 8 difficult steps and learn how to forgive your enemies. I'm not telling you that they are easy because this is real medicine. However, in the end they are not that difficult. And, after your first experiences, you'll automatically be able to forgive your enemies.

1) Eliminate your anger and hate, transforming them into sadness because you were a victim of somebody else's evil.

You must not hate monsters because it is not their fault for being that way. Unfortunately, human nature is very violent and the human being can control his behaviour and be balanced only by passing through psychotherapy. This is a fact that our society has to understand, so that our population may be cured some day.

Look at your enemy as if you were looking at a very piteous creature and have pity on him because he is so mentally ill.

2) Think that you were attacked by your enemy due to his evil nature, nothing else.

Stop thinking about what happened, what he did or did not do, etc., and focus on the real reason that the enemy's behaviour was so terrible-the momentary or progressive loss of conscience. It doesn't matter which was the scenario and the play.

You must see the real purpose of the actions and their real motive, because your enemy is a slave of his or her primitive conscience, since it dominates the conscience. He cannot control his behaviour; his actions can only be harmful.

3) Cultivate pity towards your enemy.

Regard your enemy as you regard a schizophrenic who lives locked in an asylum because the enemy has no control over his or her behaviour.

Have pity on those who are dominated by their evil side because they only suffer and they can only live in despair.

4) Give another reason to your sadness.

Do not be sad because you were a victim of your enemy's evil now that you understood that the human being could not control his behaviour due to the domination by the wild conscience.

Your sadness has to be justified by the existence of evil. Feel sad only because evil exists inside the human being and forget your own personal experience.

Think about all the people who live constantly being injured, tortured and abandoned without solution in our crazy world. Don't look at yourself as if you are the only victim in this world.

5) Recognize that you are not perfect too and that you deserve to suffer if you are not perfect, so that you may learn how to respect others in the same way you think that your enemy shall suffer to learn.

The pain you feel now transforms your own psyche and shows you how other people feel when you make mistakes.

Never think that you are much better than your enemy or that you don't make mistakes, since you are often influenced by your evil conscience, unless you have undergone psychotherapy and developed all your psychological functions, eliminating your ego.

6) Recognize that the wild conscience the human being inherits is too selfish and absurd.

It's very hard to fight against this monster because it is very strong; that's why it dominates many people all the time or partially, depending on the problems they face.

You must always be very tolerant because the truth about the human being is very disappointing; with all the violent tendencies inherent in the psychic sphere, mistakes are unavoidable.

7) You must love your enemies and care about their health and suffering because they are victims of their wild side and they have no notion of what they do, even though they appear that they do everything with an evil purpose, which they know very well. This evil purpose doesn't belong to the human conscience, but to the primitive side.

8) Forget your enemy now that you understood everything and you don't feel hatred. Take care of other matters of your life and remain occupied with them.

Your enemies will feel ridiculous for having attacked you since you didn't do anything against them, because you are not like them; you are different. You are not crazy, you don't do absurd things. You put an end to violence with your peaceful and wise attitude.

You give also an opportunity to your enemies to comprehend that instead of hating you, since you didn't take revenge, they shall be grateful because you didn't do any of the several things you could have done against them to take your revenge.

You'll keep your peace of mind and they'll understand that you are superior.

They will be punished for their actions through the consequences of their mistakes, while you'll be fine, living your life without any problem.

Prevent Depression and Craziness through the scientific method of Dream Interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by Christina Sponias, a writer who continued Jung's research in the unknown region of the human psychic sphere.

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